Category: Grandparenting

Category: Grandparenting Two Miraculous Births

Every time I assist a birth I watch and watch and watch for not one, but two miraculous births — first the birth of a mother, that powerful time of dying to herself with a burst of unparalleled bravery and resolve to give every ounce of energy, hope, and strength to that little life in her pain racked body…and then, of course, the emergence of that little baby — that life that’s been at the center of all the hopes, all the tears, all the anticipation, and of all the pain. Those two births — the birth of the mother, the birth of the child — were nine months of preparation and anticipation in the making.  Nine months of mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual transformations. For many women, this is a thrilling time — a time of transition from a life that might have been on an entirely opposite path continue reading

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Category: Grandparenting Saturday Morning Funnies

My mama sent me an email this morning… I laughed at the different quoted comments and thought I’d share them with you.  As I type this, I find myself stunned that I am old enough to hear such questions or statements from my own dear children *and* grandchildren.  My-o-my, How did I get so old without growing up!?!? JACK (age 3)  was watching his Mom breast-feeding his new baby sister… After a while he asked: ‘Mom why have you got two? Is one for hot and one for cold milk? MELANIE (age 5) asked her Granny how old she was.. Granny replied she was so old she didn’t remember any more. Melanie said, ‘If you don’t remember you must look in the back of your panties.  Mine say five to  six.’ STEVEN (age 3)  hugged and kissed his Mom good night. ‘I love you so much that when you die continue reading

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Category: Grandparenting 30 Favourite Things #5

So it happened.  A letter came in the mail today.  From the AARP.  No, it was not addressed to: Resident.  It was addressed to me. My name – not Mrs. not Ms.  Just my name.  I know.   I still occasionally think that I will receive a letter addressed to: Miss.  I even dream think there’s still a possibility of being “carded” at the checkstand buying cooking wine. O, stop laughing.  Stranger things have happened. I  think it must be part of that princess deal.  I don’t know. So, why is receiving that ARRP subscription on my 30 Favourite Things list?  Well, first, I never thought I’d be this age.  Seriously.  I never thought I’d live this long.  And to think my husband’s grandma lived nearly twice this long!   Another thing, I think, is that I never thought I’d be privileged to see this much history or have this continue reading

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Category: Grandparenting Naming the grandmother

Another drawback or disadvantage of not having family traditions is that life happens and sometimes you’ve just done things one way or another simply by default. It’s not yo fault, it’s default. Take being Swedish or German or Norwegian or Russian or whatever… there are wonderful traditions that are unique or particular to that country or culture. I’m not so sure what American culture is…. or what things are particular to Americans as far as family and/or traditional or distinguishing customs go. Maybe bigger-better-more. No… bigger-better-more really is a universal thing… it’s just that the bigger-better-more may not necessarily be a tangible or material thing… it may be simply an achievement or an accumulation of knowledge or skill or whatever. Okay, so now where was I going with all that? O, yes. I have been thinking a lot about names… what other people call us says a bit about what continue reading

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Category: Grandparenting Parenting and Grandparenting Little Ones

The interesting thing about grandparenting little ones while still bringing up little ones at home is the necessary time each requires. Necessary time for instilling priorities and grounding in the relationship, necessary time for attention and care and necessary time for establishing order and authority. It’s a tough balancing act at times. There’s the grandparents inherent desire to be accepted, appreciated, loved, etc., by the grandchildren — something that really is natural in children, but somehow, generally, grandparents don’t have that solid assurance from their grandchildren that they have from their own children. I think it has to do with the entirely right and appropriate authority of parents. But I think parents have a lot to do with the level of authority and respect represented and shown for their children’s grandparents. Children know their parents are their “authorities,” but they have this testing ground with grandparents… do they have to continue reading

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Category: Grandparenting Happy Grandparenting

I love the testimony of a plaque that hangs on the kitchen wall at our friends’ house. She’s Nana to six grandchildren. As is shown below, the first four letters of the word, spoiled, have been crossed out. It’s a great conversation piece and thought provoking, too. Too often grandparents and other people joke about little children and poke fun at rules and limits. Almost mocking indulgences are made when people give children “treats” or other things the parents wouldn’t want them to have or would want in moderation not excess. We’re of the same mind that the worst thing a grandparent can do is to “spoil” the grandchildren — for I know of few things worse than spoiled individuals (or spoiled anything, for that matter). I’m thankful our parents have this same mind, by the way. It’s made our job so much easier with our own children and spurred continue reading

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