Not Safe. Women’s Restrooms. Posted on March 31, 2016April 1, 2016 By pamela Women. The sign on the door. All my life, that’s been the safe room. It’s safe to be there. Safe to pee there. Safe to change there. Safe to nurse a baby there. Safe to send a teen daughter. Safe to wait there. Our local department store. No more. Secure… Read more
CSA… It Steals and Steels Posted on February 23, 2016February 23, 2016 By pamela For days my mind’s been flooded with grief and all sorts of other CSA emotions I’ve been trying to stifle. (I wrote this a week ago; gripped with the reality that sexualabuse steals and steels. Today I wondered if I wrote it as another of many, many entries I would… Read more
The rest of the story Posted on January 21, 2012April 23, 2019 By pamela I’m going to write a part of the rest of the story today. You know how Paul Harvey used to close his commentary — just before that seemingly eternal pause before he’d say (or seem to say it in the form of a question): good. day.; he’d say: And now… Read more
CSA: Risk Telling the Story Posted on March 18, 2011April 23, 2019 By pamela Telling stories of your yesterdays bores some people, encourages some people and inspires some people — embarrasses some people, too. I know, many times through the years, I’ve witnessed the reactions women have when some woman opens her mouth to share her story. I’ve seen it when I’ve shared my… Read more
CSA; I’ve never told anyone this before, but… Posted on March 17, 2011 By pamela That’s how the stories usually begin… that’s how they usually come tumbling out of mouth of a woman sitting beside me. The story is actually prefaced with: Can I talk to you? And after I say, Of course, hot tears seem to well up in the eyes of the one… Read more
CSA Fallout Posted on March 16, 2011March 17, 2011 By pamela Still drinking from my saucer ’cause my cup’s overflowed. And, in light of the horrific tragedy that’s befallen Japan, I want to say what I’ve written today is in no way meant to make light of that whole situation. Just wanted to make those comments before I continue writing today’s… Read more
So, why does stuff happen? Posted on March 5, 2011March 5, 2011 By pamela Do you find yourself asking the “why did that happen?” question? Why in the world did that happen? Or, why did this happen to me? Or, how could this have happened? We all ask some such question from time to time. Even when we don’t mean to bring up our… Read more
A Co-Incident Posted on March 3, 2011March 3, 2011 By pamela It just dawned on me that there are a bunch of co-incidents going on right now. But it’s not surprising to me when I’m dealing with something and then I notice several other similar something’s come up around the same time. You probably notice this is true in your life…… Read more
Let’s Pretend… Posted on March 2, 2011March 2, 2011 By pamela Let’s Pretend is a children’s game. And children are good at playing it. Adults like to play this game, too — only it’s not always for entertainment or proper development. Nearly thirty years ago my husband encouraged me to talk to someone about CSA — or, my story. It was… Read more
No more secrets Posted on March 1, 2011March 1, 2011 By pamela It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. I so longed for freedom – freedom from shame, freedom from fear, freedom from having to do things for him in that way. I so wanted to be free from all that — I wanted it to all go away. … Read more