…and there is really so much to say on this matter.
As I was sharing yesterday and the day before on some pretty sensitive matters, I recognize that the matter of marriage, family size, the sovereignty of God and Lordship of the womb is probably one of the most volatile topics concerning marriage and family… and, sadly, is not embraced and promoted by the mainstream Christian writers/teachers/preachers in the church today and is seldom embraced by Christians in general — what a pitiful indictment against the church. Actually, I think that birth control and immodest and/or gender-neutral clothing are a couple of the most blatant. Both pit believers against God’s design. What a sad commentary – what a pitiful contradiction of the Word.
So I’ve continued to mull over the consequences of birth-control or the determined limiting of family size or the selfish, purposeful prevention of conception all together. The consequences are both huge and lasting and I believe the enormity of longterm effects in and through the church cannot be measured. Intentional barrenness is a strong delusion and judgment. Consider, simply, the contradiction to God’s Word those tiny little pills on a wheel present. Consider God’s eternal purpose and the design those little pills violate.Consider… the apple.
And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food,
and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired
to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat,
and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.
God’s so “pro-life!” just look at the intentional design of men and women… think of the millions of opportunities He has designed to meet *one* egg! Over and over and over… month after month. Now, that’s PRO-life! He surely didn’t have latex in mind back in the garden! And I don’t think it’s in His design today. He didn’t hand Eve her little leaf-purse size wheel of pills to take for three weeks of every month… especially when those little pills not only manipulate her cycle but also do not prevent conception… pregnancies are ended but conceptions aren’t prevented. What a sad sad thing… the church stands in line to swallow. If you’ve got a prescription for ten or twenty more years of blessing control, then I would respectfully ask you to pray about the next pill you intend to swallow. You may never have thought to question the methods you follow or the seemingly normal course of your life. You’d be innocently following what most people in the Church are teaching today (whether in the pulpits or by their lives). But—-when you are faced with the reality of the truth—when you truly hear the Truth of the Word… then… then, at that moment, at that point: you are responsible for your actions/decisions/behaviour. O, your actions may not instantly follow – but I’d say that like in all other areas of spiritual conviction, obedience is key. Prayer is key.
I had a comment that referenced the concept of “full quiver” thinking and I thought on that quite a bit—and respect what the writer was saying. Actually, I’ve thought on the matter quite a bit for many years and have many times attempted to personally steer clear of that label “full quiver” simply bcz I think it tends to do what birth-control does—only, in reverse. I think just as using birth control to limit family size is manipulative, so also (as many attempt to do) attempting to “have as many as possible” is sort of man-centered. And then… what often follows is another sad commentary bcz when man suddenly feels over loaded or “can’t handle anymore” then many (I’ve known) suddenly say: enough’s enough and the quiver is “full.”In the strictest sense or the intended sense of the term “quiverful” I suppose is, if a couple genuinely determines to be full-quiver or quiverful minded, then they just determine to leave the “quiver” open and the Lord fills it with arrows as He chooses… and in that, I would fully understand and agree with.But I think the problem with saying outloud that one is “quiverful minded” is that it tends to ostracize those with few or none and elevate those with “many.” I’ve known quite a number of women who have completely given the matter of conception and pregnancy to the LORD and yet have one, none or few children. There are many explanations for the none, one or few children… diabetes, pcos, cancer, endometriosis, hormone imbalances, age and on and on – just to name a few. These women are just as QF as the ones who’ve carried many children. So, that’s why I tend to avoid that label and attempt to strictly concentrate on the Lordship issue or position. For, when one is simply submitted to the LORD and to whatever He leads, directs, provides, etc., then whatever the outcome: none, few, many: will have been of faith. Period.
I’d just implore praying the LORD would provide the table… that the husband and wife could dine together and then as they thank the LORD for His mercy, His grace and His precious gift of salvation — for one another, for the meal they share and for His provision, that they would just humbly ask if He’d provide more chairs. And, if He sees fit to do so, then… praise. If not, then… praise. He is the LORD.It’s never too late to surrender one’s life, home, marriage, womb, children… to the LORD. O, the enemy will make it seem that way, but it is *never* too late this side of heaven. It’s never too late to repent of failings, of fear, of lack of faith, of surgical or chemical decisions/actions and it’s never too late to turn from following the ways of the lost and yield to the Living Lord. Never… it’s never too late this side of Heaven. You may never have another child. You may never bear a child in your womb. Lordship of the womb is not about numbers of children conceived there… it’s simply about faith regarding whatever does or does not happen there.