In a moment, in a twinkling of an eye… it hardly seems possible that seventeen years have passed by since our seventh child was born. How marvelous the Lord has been to bless us with this son. How sweet the Lord is. I am taking the time to write about this tonight bcz over the years I’ve talked to many, many women who’re ambivalent to yield their childbearing to the will and determination of the Lord.
I’ve noticed there’s sort of a point of questioning family size at odd times. I’ll give you some examples. Most Christian families would say and agree that the Lord always provides. And then, most families, at some point or another, face financial difficulties. Faith is shaken and they question the Lord’s providence. And their family size.
Another example of questioning might come along with aging. Birthdays can be odd. One birthday may come and go with no real fanfare or notice. But add a zero to a higher first digit and odd things happen. I’ve noticed that twenty-nine year old women, as do thirty-nine year old women, have a crisis of belief as the next birthday approaches — sort of like moving the large weight on the scale at the doctor’s office. Advancing age (remember 30 is *old* to many women) makes some women feel like they’re past their prime and they’re too old to have children. These are usually the ages when men and women start to calculate what their own age will be when their last child is twenty. And, face it, to a thirty year old or to a forty year old, fifty or sixty years old seems quite ancient!
Another point of questioning family size usually comes along at another odd time. Odd numbered children seem to really grab the attention of mothers and dads. They might think, ah, we have two… what’s this? Three children? Or they might have four children and a fifth is on the way — that seems staggering to some. But I’ve noticed, in particular, that the tipping point for most families is that seventh child. That seventh child ushers in a whole new dynamic. Perhaps it’s bcz at seven children, the size of the family vehicle really becomes an issue. Bedding and bedroom arrangement becomes an issue. Seating at the dining table becomes an issue (as did going from four to five and so on). Sets of dishes, sets of silverware and a host of other things change when a family of eight becomes a family of nine as the seventh child is born.
It seems, though, that it was at the point of the pregnancy and birth of the seventh child, that we seemed to have come to both a very strong conviction and resolute conclusion that the Lord was (and is) Lord of the womb and that it was His to open or to close, His to provide or withhold, His to determine and it was ours to yield to Him.
It was the precious gift and birth of our seventh child that really did resolve for me the questions and concerns about the present and future days being solely in the Hand of the Lord. So, then, it was in faith that we resolved to not question the Lord or to feel apologetic for His dealing in our life. I think it was at that point that I knew that I knew He was working in a unique way and that had He chosen one or none or seven children — He, alone, was Lord and He, alone, had the preeminence as the merciful, only faithful, only wise God.
The morning the baby was born, Wes named our son, Stephen — the naming of each of the children is a story for another time — and he prayed that as he grew, God would mightily use this young man for His purposes and that whatever happened to Stephen in his life, may his life be fully yielded to the Lord and may he stand up for the Lord, as a minister of the gospel — faithful to the end.
How grateful I am to the merciful Lord for the precious gift of Stephen, our seventh child, born November 2nd… seventeen years ago. We’ve surely seen that the Lord’s will, done His way, does not lack His supply.