Today’s “Dare” begins: Love is not rude.
Once again, I find it difficult to carry out the dare of the day. I say this because I genuinely feel as though I am never rude to my husband. In fact, from the beginning of our marriage, courtesy and manners have been something we’ve continually practiced. But I am determined to go through this book and so I read the chapter and considered the definitions, thoughts and suggestions. And then I had thought on them for a number of days.
I’ve considered several scenarios and I’ve realized that I will occasionally make a comment that interrupts or even contradicts something my husband has said. In times past I have thought I do this bcz I know him so well that I know what he meant to say and so I occasionally interject what he meant to say. And you know… I got to thinking about this and realize that I need to keep this in check — O, I’m not saying I wouldn’t tell him something — but rather, the way it’s done is what I need to determine to redouble my efforts to consider.
The chapter continues with suggestions as to what rudeness looks or sounds like and some Scriptures — concerning how rude behaviour affects a husband (Proverbs 25.24) and the importance of discretion and graciousness. (Proverbs 112.5) The sugesstions were followed by some questions — one being:
Would your husband or wife say that you are a blessing, or that you’re condescening and embarrassing?”
Then tree suggestions (with comments):
1. Guard the Golden Rule…
2. No double standards…
3. Honour requests…
Just yesterday I heard a request — I complied… but I didn’t complete the task — and actually didn’t realize I hadn’t completed the task. Do you know why? I hadn’t listened carefully to the information I was given. I hadn’t paid close attention to the details. Now, in that situation there was no harm done whatsoever — except — that I hadn’t paid close attention to specifics. So from that I now know two things — the next time I am to complete that specific task, my husband will remind me of what I missed this time and *I* will pay very close attention to look in the place he told me I would find the product he had purchased. :o)
Do you think I wanted to ask the questions in this chapter’s exercise? Really… I don’t mind — even though, as with any test, confrontation or question I get nervous that I won’t measure up. I know one thing’s for sure — when my husband tells me something I need to do or something he’d like to have done I kow he is *for* me and wants the very best for me. Time and experience has proven this over and over. I am assured of his love and respect. Here’s this chapter’s dare:
______ check here when you’ve completed today’s dare.
There’s space in the book to record what your spouse pointed out; space to record how you handled it; and space to record what you plan to do to improve these areas. Tomorrow, Day 6: Love is Not Irritable.