As I got older I began to see the downside of her life. I began to weigh things more carefully… choices became important and I realized that actions have consequences — ideas have consequences. As much as her appearance and lifestyle had early on appealed to me, I realized her lifestyle was so not one that I would want to emulate and I also realized her appearance and apparent behaviour was also not what I ever wanted for my life or for our daughters for that matter. And it was my family, my daughters and message of faith in the Lord that made me take a long look at the message that old friend was giving and instilling. I wanted more for them — even though she seemed to have everything — why, she had more than most people ever even dreamed of owning — come to think of it, she even had a dream house. Though in and of themselves those things aren’t wrong or evil, those things – those ways – aren’t what I wish for our daughters. I so want so much better for our daughters .
Well, my old treasured friend, Barbara Millicent Roberts went on to become very famous – the envy of million$. Actually, I’ve had opportunities to have her here in our home but long ago decided against it, knowing full well that it would be counterproductive. She’s just too much — on so many levels — she sets a standard and subtly engrains a mindset I’m not wanting for our daughters — an inappropriate message for a woman who’s seeking to live in accordance with the Word of God. It’s not that I am so archaic or so ideological or so anti-feminist (okay, I guess I pretty much am the latter).
When I see her I never think: wow, what purity, what beauty, what gentleness, what modesty — what virtue, what faith, what humility, what a virtuous woman or what an honourable mother she exemplifies and portrays! Her lifestyle, independence, careers, appearance, obsession with clothes, makeup, hair, jewelry, accessories and possessions is, again on so my levels, opposite what I’m seeking to instill in our daughters (and sons, too, by the way). Things we have in our home give a message– instill a mindset — form an ideology. An, my-o-my, what a responsibility we have as mothers of daughters!!
So… probably unpopular with some and with agreement from others, I’ve just not brought her home. But when March rolls around, I still think of her sometimes. I think of the many, many hours I spent with her and all her stuff. Come to think of it, maybe she spent time with you, too.
O, I know when you see her today you won’t believe Barbie’s 50! I know — Hard to believe we’re the same age… I thought that when we turned 20… and 30… and 40… and now?
So, is she a favourite thing from my 50th year? No. The reason she’s #10 on my list of some of the “life changing” or “significantly impacting things” from my 50th year is a realization or an affirmation, really. I realize that she (along with other things) symbolizes a lot of self-centeredness, foolishness, selfishness, emptiness — sort of the superfluity of naughtiness referred to in Romans 6 in my life. And so, at this half-century mark, I ask seriously, what fruit had I then in those things whereof I am now ashamed? I sorrowfully say: she symbolizes the life(s) I thought I wanted. I do not have what I thought I wanted. I have more than everything I ever longed for. Truly I am a princess.
More than ever before in my life I’m sort of taking inventory of what’s been good, what’s been foolish, what’s worth doing and what’s worth “thinking on.” If I live another day or another 50 years I don’t want to live with regrets over what I did, what I thought, what I wanted, where I went, what I spent my time doing. I never want to live a plastic life.
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
I am so humbled, so thankful, so in awe that the Lord saved me and is daily conforming me into His image. I am so grateful He loves me so much that He couldn’t leave me where I was or where I was going. I sing His praises more today than ever for giving me life and for life eternal by faith and salvation in Jesus my Lord and Saviour. I pray you have this wonderful assurance, too. He is the only thing that’s real.