Giving up is not an option. Cutting off all contact is not an option. Negating or negotiating wrong choices is not an option. Reversing the damages is not an option — that is to say, whatever precipitated the wrong choices is done. You cannot recreate the past. If you made stupid parenting decisions, if you weren’t there as a parent, if you messed up — whatever — you have to get past the idea that you can, today, make your yesterdays or their yesterdays any different. But you can walk on in obedience and faith today.
Only the devil will try to convince you that giving up IS an option. This is hard to consider — it’s hard to face. It’s hard to see sometimes that seemingly “good ideas” about giving up are not from God. That is, the devil’s very convincing. Very convincing. He convinces women all the time that they’re worthless, their lives are useless, their accomplishments amount to nothing, their failures are beyond redemption and their sins or mistakes cannot be forgiven. All that, and considering that his chief aim is not glorifying God –because he hates God– the devil’s chief aim is not your best interest, it’s very certain that his prompting for you to throw in the towel–for you to give up–is for your complete destruction.
There is nothing that can separate you from the love of God. You have His Word on it. If you will call on Him, He will hear you, He will carry you, He will deliver you. Because He loves you.
You may feel alone today — your behaviour, decisions, sin, neglect, stupid actions, foolish words, pride, ignorance, selfishness, or a whole host of whatever else, may have brought you to this day with a big pile of nothing but regret, loss and shame. But God who loves you, gave His only begotten Son, Jesus, to be your Redeemer. Seriously. There is a Redeemer — Jesus — and He is only faithful and true. He cannot fail you, He cannot leave you nor forsake you. Don’t give up today. Don’t run away. Run to Jesus. Call on His name. Pick up His Word and read it. He is for you. He loves you — don’t think it’s the love you see all around you — you know what I mean, the love you thought was here, there and everywhere. God’s love is different than all human love. God’s love is eternal. It’s powerful — it divides the Light and the darkness. Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you WILL be saved. You have His Word.
Don’t give up. Give God your troubles, your trials, your mess. He redeems.
Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” –Romans 8.35-39