30 Favourite Things #2

  teacuppamela.png Okay… so yesterday I told you that I’d be posting “thirty favourite things” from the last year… things that were big or important to me that I never really wrote about — some of the “life changing” or “significantly impacting things” from my 50th year. And I’ve been thinking that I have so many significant things to share — but what are worth telling — or, more importantly (considering this is a public venue), what are worth reading?  So I’m attempting to tell the stuff that’s worth reading.

June was an extremely busy month and, as such, some of the ‘big things’ that happened were very obscured by some smaller busy-ness – but weren’t small things at all.

Probably one of the most cherished events or most significant events I’ve ever experienced have been the births of each of our children and witnessing the births of our grandchildren.   The incredible gift of life — the experiencing God in the indescribable instance of birth is truly one of the greatest treasures I have or will ever have.  So, then, on the eleventh of June I had the great honour and privilege of caring for my friend who was labouring with her sixth child.  When my husband and I arrived at their home, our friend was in the throes of labour and the waves of pains were wracking her body as the time drew nearer for the birth.  Her husband and mother were there comforting and caring for her.  It became obvious that the midwife would not arrive in time for the birth and more obvious that her husband and I would be the ones to care for her during the actual birthing of the baby.  Continually working with her to give her assurance and comfort, I trusted God to guide our thoughts and decisions. Time, space and propriety does not allow for the recounting of all the (very significant to me) details of this wonderful night.

Surely the presence of the Lord was in that place — great peace was intermingled with the thrilling anticipation of the impending birth.  She was so beautiful and serene there in the warm water and as the baby was born – “in the caul” – into the waiting hands of his father, it was so obvious the blessing of the Lord was on him – on the mother – on the baby – and surely giving me great peace and comfort.  The father is a fireman — but that’s not why I had no fear.  He has helped with births as I have in the past, but that’s not why I had no fear.  I had no fear because the presence of the Lord was so evident.

As the father moved to gather necessary things, I was so honoured to place the baby in the hands of the mother and to hold him there with her so that I could more carefully assess the baby’s colour, breathing and cord.   Everything looked very good as it was a very, very smooth birth (note, I never said very, very easy or pain-free).   But you know… if there was pain, if there was too much or if it was hard, my friend showed none of that.  She was as if to be carried through on the wings of angels — that’s the only way I can describe her beauty and countenance.  I will never, ever forget that most wonderful night.

The midwife did arrive some time later, was pleased with our ‘work’ and completed the care and assessment of the baby and mother.  God had surely blessed that whole labour and delivery and it was very evident to me the prayers of the saints were with us.

I prepared a meal and tea to drink and brought it up for our serenely resting friend… in her arms was the precious newborn Timothy who had been so named for our missionary son.  This was surely one of the greatest honours we’ve ever received.  We prayed and do pray the Lord will bless, guide and use this little 2nd :o) Timothy in great and mighty ways all the day of his life.

When I awoke after a few hours sleep in the morning… I cried with awe, joy and thankfulness at the goodness and mercy of the Lord.  He alone does wondrously and all things well.

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30 Favourite Things #1

teacuppamela.pngHelloooooooooooooo there… I’ve been missing this place.  Or, rather, I’ve been missing from this place.  I have been racking my brain as to what to do to jump back into the blog pool… it’s sort of like exercising… I love it when I am exercising, but I do not like to ‘have to’ exercise — blogging’s like that sometimes — and like exercise (or any other somewhat beneficial thing, I love it.  I don’t love it.  I miss it. I don’t miss it.  If you’re a blogger, you totally know what I am talking about.

So, here I am… and for the next 30 days I will be posting “thirty favourite things” from the last year… things that were big or important to me that I never really wrote about — some of the “life changing” or “significantly impacting things” from my 50th year.

I know, I know… I am going to be pretty much obnoxious concerning my fiftieth year.  I have started a Bucket List…
I’m glad I have been able to do some things on my “bucket list.”  The things I am going to share in the next thirty days aren’t necessarily “bucket list category” type things.

(Yes. I did see the movie.  Yes… I don’t recommend it to everyone.  Or anyone, really.  But I did see it.  And I’m pretty glad I did.  But I am not recommending it.)

So, here’s one of the most recent things I was so glad I did during my fiftieth year — I was most honoured and privileged to make the wedding cake for two people I love — two families I love.  Nathan and Larissa were married on Saturday, February 21st.  And here is their cake:

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wedding cake

Each tier was 2 layers… the cake was almond/butter/buttermilk and the filling was raspberry for some of the cake layers and ganache/bavarian for others.   My husband blessed me by helping frost the layers… (the troweling of pools and decks has the side benefit of expertise in troweling frosting cakes.  :o)  And I was most blessed to have my friend, Rhonda, help me as well.  (She even brought the Starbucks coffees — And, No.,  I did not get cup #280.)

All the “pearls” and strings were piped on and the roses and the little Groom and Bride were made from Fondant.  I prepared those a couple of days before the wedding.  The frosting was Buttercream.   The cakes were set on a base of glass blocks which were lighted underneath.  Isn’t that so cool?!?!?   There was a 16″ – 14″ – 12″ – 10″ – 8″ and 6″ top cake and 3 – 14″ side cakes that looked just like these except that I didn’t (for obvious reasons) have them as part of the cake.   Can you imagine?!?!   I had prepared enough cake for nearly 600 people… and there were over 500 at the wedding.  However, that number included babies and children of all ages.    It was a beautiful day – inside and out.  It was a beautiful covenent wedding — Happy Happy Happy day.  Praise the Lord — He is only good.

Loved it.  Can you tell?

#2 tomorrow.

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The Way I See It #296

My friend surprised me with a delicious Sbx this morning.  What a yummy treat and wonderful way to start the day!  Sbx coffees haven’t been part of my ‘diet regimen’ lately, but today I obviously had to make concessions for… well, what could I have done?  Tell my dear friend, no thanks, I’m dieting… what?  are you crazy? no… no… no… not me! 

So… yum… it’s as delicious now, one hour later, reheated just a tad… and here’s what it says:

By the time executives get married
take on a mortgage, raise kids, cope
with crabgrass, climb the
corporate ladder, do their best to
manage career pressures, build
their net worth and get into their
40’s, they’ve lost touch with what
they believe in and care about
most deeply.”
–Allan Cox

I’d sort of dislike attempting to liken motherhood to corporate life — I’m not one to attempt jazz up the description of “occupation” when filling out forms. I don’t look to cleverly describe my life as a domestic engineer, in product research and development, nursing, transportation, nutritionist… etc., etc.  No, I never do all that.  I never attempt to describe my life or define it using corporate terms — there just aren’t common terms to define or describe motherhood — none that would be sufficient, anyway.

When I read the cup today… I mulled over that Starbucks The Way I See It #296 quote… and I thought of parallels to mothers who spend decades building the kites, making sure the spines are straight, the covers are properly stretched, mending the tears and broken frames, reinforcing the structures over and over and then slowly lengthening the tails and strengthening the line… releasing and unwinding little by little and then when the line is fully extended from the reel… knowing when to cut the line and put the reel away.

 

A lot of water under the bridge…

Literally.


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Since my last blog entry to this, there has been a ‘record’ amount of water under the bridge… and the normally green farmland that surrounds our home now appears to be a lake.  One of the captions in the local paper read, “A series of homes and barns cling to strands of dry land in Snohomish on Friday.”    I don’t know if I’d have described our home as clinging to a strand of dry land, but it was certainly sitting in the floodwater and the LORD surely had it anchored.

Someone commented to us, “You’re fortunate that you have a good foundation on that old farmhouse.”  Just between you and me, I’m not so sure this hundred year old farmhouse does, in fact, have a good foundation.  But I told that friend, yes, I am so thankful for the good foundation we have… come what may, high water or no… we ever stand in His hand.   Praise the Lord for His goodness and mercy — this house only stands bcz of His mercy and one day, it might be in His providential mercy that this house no longer stands as it does today — but we will stand in Him.

We had to leave our home last week as the floodwater was rushing in under the bridge… I stayed watching for a bit – intrigued by many things.  One being, the power of water – the intense sound and speed of rushing water – the power to wash away, the power to damage and the power to set courses — all these thoughts and more were running through my mind.  As we were driving out, I had to just stop and watch — rushing rivers are so incredible and watching rushing water is mesmerizing.


water rushing in…

So after a few more minutes, realizing there was no more time spend there watching the water rise… we made our way down the lane with what’s most important to us — our children — along with some generally unimportant material goods, and we caravanned to the location where we would spend the next week.

It’s a heady rush planning to leave home in anticipation of a flood –unimportant things become sentimental and what might be truly valuable almost becomes inconsequential.  Determining value of personal possessions is such a subjective thing — I mean, it depends, literally, what room of your house you happened to be in during the last few minutes.  Suddenly, you’re faced with a few minutes to make some, in terms of material goods, important decisions.  And your decisions become clouded by the tyranny of the urgent.  I kept laughing as the tremendous sound of the rushing water became more pronounced (I was laughing partly out of nervousness and partly from the sheer excitement of it all).  Drama.

I’ll give you an example… I was gathering the already packed bags and asked the children if they had their schoolbooks — what was I thinking? Were we really going to do school work?  History — I mean *our* personal history — would have told me: no.  No, there won’t be any significant studying in the next week.   And if books were the important matter, why didn’t I take measures to bring out the truly important, much more valuable by comparison, books?   Anyway… that’s but one example.

So the water was higher this time than last… more in volume than last and is likely to stay around longer than last time.  The water did more damage this time than last.  We had our computers with us and were watching the River levels as updates were posted and saw when the water was reaching record levels.  Eleven of our chickens… didn’t get the memo.

Actually, water lines and debris indicate that this photo was taken after the water had receded just a bit.  The trees (there are actually very tall trees on either side of the River) shown near the top of this photo are where the Snohomish River is.  Usually.

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This is the Snohomish River the morning before the flood.  Oooo… very, very high.
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Good morning, new year…

[thank you for the personal letters inquiring as to my lack of blogging… i love you and will keep writing, still]

teacuppamela.pngI’m sitting in my husband’s office… it’s early and the sun is shining.  I love this time of year – the sun shines at an angle such that it comes streaming in the south/east windows and casts an apricot/pink glow.  I love that the days are growing longer a minute or so a day.  I love that a whole new year looms large before us.  I love that there’s hope and promise and potential.  Potentiality… that’s what I love and that’s what I think I’ve forgotten for a few months now.  Potentiality. A great big bunch of potentiality.

I haven’t felt like blogging.  O, I mean, I have felt like blogging — I feel like it every day — but I haven’t felt like editing my thoughts or editing what goes into print here.  That takes a different kind of thought — a different kind of energy.   Every now and then I feel like just writing.  And every now and then the thought hits me that I would like to write without walls.  I’d like to talk plainly about so many things.  But then I think it might seem that I am referring to some incident shared in confidence or that I am being too critical about things or whatever.  Sometimes I’ll be in the midst of an event and I just want to write about it… from my perspective… not to say something to the others involved, but simply making observation. Amazingly, many times I will be in the midst of this or that event or activity and I’ll read a similar account in the paper or a magazine or book or whatever and I’ll consider writing about it — or at least commenting on it and then I stop.  I stop bcz the similarity to my ‘real life’ situation is so parallel – and I consider what might be thought… Ack… so I don’t write about it — well, at least not here.  At least not at the time.  I write things in my head all day long.  I think of things I wish I could say all day long.

I wish we weren’t all so quick to misjudge what we read or hear.  We’re quick to jump to conclusions about things that are said…. assuming others have ulterior motives for teaching or saying whatever it is they’re saying.  When, in reality, most often people are just making observations; they’re just communicating their thoughts, ideas or experiences.  And bcz – though we don’t like to think so,  we’re all pretty much the same, stories are often going to have a familiar ring to them… different women’s life experiences are going to be pretty similar.   Different but similar.  Seasons are seasons — each have similar characteristics.

We all have stories.  We all have lives that should be journaled.  Some public, some private. We all want to be recognized.  To some degree.  We all want to be loved, appreciated, cherished, validated, needed.  By someone. Some, by lots of someone’s.  And we all have something to say.  Some of us want to say more in a more public manner than others do.  Ironically, sometimes the more we want to be heard, the less we say.

I’ve been thinking about all this a lot lately… and, as is typical, surprise! I’ve been feeling like a: zero.  But last night… I was wiping dust from underneath a tall cabinet.  I was lying down on the floor to reach under the cabinet, and from there, the height and size the cabinet was significant.  I was thinking: my life is just a ‘zero.’  And I was thinking (almost in protest, but probably in an attempt at self preservation):  …but a ‘zero’ holds a place.  A ‘zero’ next to another ‘zero’ has place.  And even if there’s just a measly ‘one’ next to the ‘zero’ — the ‘zero’ has great significance. I was envisioning a zero next to… say… a 1 and 5 zeros.

I’ve been thinking about when I was 5.  And all the years between then and now.  I sometimes feel like I’m 5 still.  I’ll write later about adding a ‘zero’  to. that. 5.  For the next 81 days I’ll be thinking about that a lot.

more later.  Happy new year.

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a conversation

  teacuppamela So, tell me about you.  And thus began a very long conversation.  Have you ever asked someone that?  I mean asked them and really meant to be asking the question bcz you really wanted to know — and not for information’s sake but for love – that’s all, just for love.  Well, that’s how my conversation with my cousin began. 

Just for love, that’s all. I loathe actions done for anything else. That’s been a character quality that has brought me both great peace and great anguish.  Great peace bcz I’m a what-you-see-is-what-you-get person.  Great anguish bcz what you see is not necessarily what you see — tell you why.  When you see a seemingly confident person, chances are very good that what you see is not what’s really going on.  O, you may see happy – but happy is learned, happy is a decision… you may see confidence – you may think you see a self assured person, but underneath is a very un-self-assured person.  That’s not to say that seemingly self-assured person is not confident in what they are saying – but that the person is very confident in what they’re saying but not confident being the person saying it.  So, that’s me.  Glad by choice – and not necessarily confident, but confident in what I’m saying – confident bcz God is and has been faithful and I trust in Him.

I guess it’s why I lean so heavily on the “we have this treasure in earthen vessels” verse and feel it so strongly.  It’s another reason why I tell you that line from time to time: I have no mouth and yet I must scream (good line, probably not a good book).  And… that is why two words are so totally profound to me.  Those two words are:  But God.

My cousin and I share life changing events that occurred at the same time  nearly 40 years ago.  Neither of us – probably not fully even to this day – realized how life altering those events would be.  I don’t think any of us — at the time — grasp the significance of what will later become defining moments of our lives.  It was the great collision of my life — which I believe God allowed for my good and His glory.  It was an intersection of my life and my cousin’s life.   And we talked at length about it the other night… and I cried for hours following that conversation.

In that month of August there were two deaths – the death for my cousin was the horrific suicide death of his father. It was a very sad time – crazy emotional.  The other death?  For me – was the death of innocence as I was molested by the man my mother was married to at the time and. is. not. now.  Death that occurs in sexual abuse is like a shooting at point-blank range – only you never see the weapon, the wound, the trail of blood, there is no coroner summoned… and no funeral.  It’s just a quiet death. On the outside.  But I didn’t know at the time that my uncle’s death was not the only death that happened that month.  The reality of the second death that month would be drawn out for three years and then — years later — would be recognized for what it really was.  That collision in the intersection was life changing for me.

There were a lot of people in that intersection that month — it’s taken me years to look at that mental photograph and see all the faces – and longer for me to see the lives behind the faces and what that collision meant.  To us all.  And problem with blogging is – for people like me – that there’s so much to say and it’s been important for me to say it all — but I have to continually gauge the appropriateness of the telling — that’s what’s more important.  All along, this blog’s been a tool to help people see they’re not alone – it’s a place I share what God’s done with what the enemy intended evil and a place for other women to see there is freedom at the foot of the Cross.

The longer I live, the more I see that people like me have this huge need to know and be known – it’s but a part of that refusal to keep dark secrets hidden.   And there’s a –huge– difference between discreetly honouring confidences and hiding dark secrets, lies and indiscretions.

 

What’s on your schedule for this week…

teacuppamela.pngI have a sweet friend who routinely asks me: What’s on your schedule for this week?  and I usually proceed to tell her something like: Hmmm… just the usual;  housekeeping, gardening, baking and schooling… and then I may tell of the significant event of the week or whatever.  And, that’s pretty much how weeks go.  The dailies and some event or another — always keeping in mind the time-tested reality that the week will never go how I thought it would — that I will look back and marvel that the days each seemed long but the week just flew by.

That’s pretty much how life’s gone over the years and now, instead of saying the days were long but the weeks flew by, I say: the weeks are long but the months just fly on by.  Every week seems to have sort of a character of its own and this week looks to be no different.  Here’s this morning’s snapshot of what our week might look like:

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This is a static chart… updates every 6 hours or so… here.

So, yeah… I’m ironing today… gardening… thinking of painting a room and I’m laughing.  A lot.

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The days go by… so fast.

teacuppamela.pngAnother Monday…
Monday’s are sort of reflection days for me — maybe they are for you, too. It sort sets the pace for the week in reflection & prayer as I work around our home.  I reflect on what was shared in the Sunday meeting — the messages, songs, prayers… etc., etc.  I also reflect on whatever else happened over the weekend — which, most weekends, is at least one event or another.

My mind sort of floods with thoughts of Saturday. I had the privilege to speak at a retreat in Olympia and the faces of the women are seemingly right before me  — precious women whose hearts are to serve the LORD and serve their families.   As is often the case after such an event, the day sort of replays in the theater of my mind and I second-guess or doubt what I shared – doubt whether they were the right messages or if there was offense or whatever. It always seems as though the enemy slips in a doubt or an attempt cloud to my thoughts as I share some challenging or thought provoking message.

I know this is especially true when I attend a retreat with convicting or inspiring messages, the enemy seems to relentlessly attempt to thwart my attention or a distracting thought comes my way or whatever.  My husband was of great consolation to me as he prayed for me – and shared with me that there must’ve been something significant against the enemy for him to pester me so — something against worldly ways that would be damaging to the enemy agenda.  And I thought on that — or I think on those thoughts today — and realize that whenever I speak strongly about marriage, the different roles of men and women and the biblical design for wives and mothers, there is great opposition – and so I am trusting the LORD today for the outcome and trusting Him for the hearts and minds of each of the women in attendance and their families, too.

Christian womanhood is quite under attack – and when even the ‘teachers’ and ‘preachers’ of the land will not speak Truth, it is no wonder.  It is no wonder there is such confusion when the very Word of God is not revered and taught.  For if the Word were clearly taught, so much of what we’ve come to accept — socially — would have to go; so much of what we think we want, need or like would have to go; so many of our own agendas, preconceived notions and personal preferences would be challenged and judged – and enormous changes would necessarily have to take place.  And… we’d have to face the Truth.  Whether we face it now or later, we will face It.

Timothy posted the following note… I think it’s probably from “Stuff Christians Like”  — a site that’s a take off on “Stuff White People Like”  but I digress.  Anyway, I think this is so true:

quotebegin.gifThe matter is quite simple. The Bible is very easy to understand. But we Christians are a bunch of scheming swindlers. We pretend to be unable to understand it because we know very well that the minute we understand we are obliged to act accordingly. Take any words in the New Testament and forget everything except pledging yourself to act accordingly. My God, you will say, if I do that my whole life will be ruined. Herein lies the real place of Christian scholarship. Christian scholarship is the Church’s prodigious invention to defend itself against the Bible, to ensure that we can continue to be good Christians without the Bible coming too close. Dreadful it is to fall into the hands of the living God. Yes, it is even dreadful to be alone with the New Testament.”

— Soren Kierkegaard

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Gotta ♥ Starbucks.

stbx.jpg I had to chuckle today at the hullabaloo over Sarah Palin’s reference to a Sbx (yeah, I know, she said Quote of the Day and blew it and should have said, “The Way I  See It… number… blah, blah, blah – and should not have blundered the word: help when she used the word: support).  So, she got the #287 cup… ‘sure glad she didn’t bungle the number of States in the US or something silly like that.

You know which cup I got?  Yep……………. it’s the same #280 I’ve gotten many times.  How is that possible?  I’ve gotten that #280 cup in Seattle, in Snohomish, in Portland, in Spokane, at SeaTac and probably other places, too.   Just a few days ago, Kathryn came home with a yummy, grandé extra-hot mocha — she was actually laughing when she handed it to me.  Yes, it was #280.  I nearly crumbled… but I was revived by the delicious brew.

I don’t even know how many times I’ve gotten that #280 cup.  I’m telling you, it’s a conspiracy.  In the last four or five years I’ve developed a nagging and sometimes debilitating inferiority complex – and no, I’m not kidding, and so when I get the cup — that number two-eighty cup, I start to think someone’s arranging it. It’s ironic — almost humourous.  Almost.

I’ve never gotten #287.  I’m glad, actually — and not just bcz I think Ms. Albright was way off.

My cup?  Quote #280?

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quotebegin.gifYou can learn a lot more from listening than you can from talking…”

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