About that “Thinking Blogger…”

teacuppamela.pngI thought I would get to this earlier… but, alas, I did not. So tonight while Samuel was playing soccer and a few of the children went to cheer, a couple of left-behind’s were here finishing up their schoolwork… ooops!

I scurried around attempting to regain a bit of order here at home. Then some time here on the computer. O, for more minutes in the hours.

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For the “thinking blogger award” I’m to list five blogs that I regularly visit that make me think…

In an attempt to be concise about the five sites that are especially meaningful or thought provoking, I find that it appears I am excluding great sites. Sort of that conundrum one faces when naming meaningful friends or something—one does so at the risk of exclusion. It’s another of those unintended consequences of life. And so… I’ve decided that I’ll call the list *some* of the sites that really have me thinking and are, by no means, not the only five that do so.

First though, I want to say “thank you” to the three who’ve blessed me with their kind words, encouragement and inspiration to press on, to continue to share things the LORD is showing me and to continue to look for interesting articles, messages and links to share that will be… well, things to think about. So, to Keri Mae http://homeschoolblogger.com/AHappyHome I thank you and appreciate you, the life you’re living, the testimony of your home and family and for loving motherhood. To Cat at http://www.xanga.com/MrsCatherine I thank you and want you to know how grateful I am to you and to your husband for the challenge you have taken on to publish Making It Home magazine and for giving me the opportunity to be a columnist for you there. Thank you for the testimony of a life dedicated to the Lord and for striving for excellence. And to Kay, http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/KayinMaine, I thank you for your encouragement as a younger mother who is seeking to obey, follow and trust in the LORD for your family, to bravely train them up at home and to be joyful in your high calling. Thank you all… and may the LORD bless you abundantly as you walk with Him and as other see your radiance and give Him glory.

So… thinking, thinking, thinking…

v So here’s one: http://www.carlalynne.blogspot.com/
I’m fairly certain that this blog has me thinking and thinking and thinking… how in the world could I begin to implement even a fraction of the things Carla talks about and, what’s more, could I ever make the sacrifices she makes to achieve the goals she and her husband have for their family and future? Well, if nothing ever comes of working to be more self-sufficient as far as sustainable homesteading goes, I’ll know one thing’s for sure: I love reading about it and seeing it through Carla’s eyes.


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Okay, here’s another:
And I’m gonna guess you’ll say this is a no-brainer. Of course this blog’s got me thinking and thinking and thinking – lots of the time and especially about what I need to be doing with our children, I might add. But it’s not just that and it’s not just that she’s another mother of many or that she’s not one of the “younger” bloggers… it’s more than that. So the blog? MommyLife. Yeah, yeah, but then, you knew that. Glad Barbara doesn’t critique grammar and writing style. At least not here. 😉


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How about another:
This one I love bcz I could write these things… I don’t mean I could write them as well, but many of the things she writes about, I could write, too. Her children are a bit younger and many things are really not all that similar to my life and home… but, somehow I relate. So, Melodee’s blog: http://shrinkingmom.clubmom.com/ is a favourite—I read from time to time… it’s as fun to read as it is convicting. Well, convicting, bcz you know me and my umpteenth-and-one diet. Which, by the way I still need to… ahem, but I digress.


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And then there is this one…
—far and away the least light-hearted and uplifting but probably the one I find really has me thinking – and praying not only for the specific topic being addressed, but also for “the church” in general! I have long appreciated the work and careful research of Slice of Laodicea which is now Christian Research Network. I also follow links from there and read some of those blogs fairly regularly. Those are the days I likely read up on what’s going on in the purpose driven world. (I know, that’s a registered couple of words) and those are the days I likely make a quick zip through Michelle Malkin’s blog, too.


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And then finally, but certainly not lastly, I sure like Coffee and a muffin. No… I really do. And with that coffee and a muffin, I like Coffee and a Muffin – Kim’s site that has me thinking about homey stuff, good-for-you foods, family stuff and, well… it’s inspirational, too.

For more great reads… see the dear to me blogs in the left column and the etcetera stuff, too. However, even these are not the only marvels…
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the thinking blogger award

teacuppamela.pngI don’t get tagged for things very often and the times I have, I haven’t responded with a reply more than a couple of times. So, I’m a bit reluctant to reply or to make a list this time, but I sort of like the premise of the meme and so have decided to make a post regarding “blogs that make me think.” I received two of these Thinking Blogger awards and I do so appreciate the sweet vote of confidence by Catherine at Making it Home and then another by Kay: Bloom Where You’re Planted.

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So I need to consider the five blogs that make me think or that have greatly inspired or influenced me. And it would be simple to just say the two that nominated me -and they do make me think, by the way, and so I will include them in my thanks.

Here’s the way this meme works: This, from
The Thinking Blog

quotebegin.gifThe participation rules are simple:

1. If, and only if, you get tagged, write a post with links to 5 blogs that make you think,
2. Link to this post so that people can easily find the exact origin of the meme,
3. Optional: Proudly display the ‘Thinking Blogger Award’ with a link to the post that you wrote (here is an alternative silver version if gold doesn’t fit your blog).

That was that! Please, remember to tag blogs with real merits, i.e. relative content, and above all – blogs that really get you thinking! It is the first time I am starting something with my blog so I hope it doesn’t come back to haunt me.
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Okay… so I will work on this tomorrow.
I’m thinking, I’m thinking.
Gotta go… children and grand dears need me.
It’s time for ice cream right now—- i..i..it’s… it’s for the children, dontcha know. ;o)

Keeping Score

teacuppamela.pngNone of us think we do it, but we do do it. We keep score. I’ve been thinking about this quite a bit lately as I’ve considered trials friends face,  many letters I receive regarding problems in families, problems with extended family and . And no matter how many times I write it: “… it doesn’t matter… no one’s keeping score.” the truth is still the same. It does matter (and, pssssst: by the way, someone is keeping score.)

I thought of that comment or bit of advice I received a number of years ago- advice I have never forgotten.

Quite a number of years ago, I was commenting about a trouble I was trying to cope with and I happened to notice I was in the company of a mom whose daughter was enduring a fatal condition and faced daily struggles to simply breathe. She responded with empathy when I said I had nothing to complain or fret over considering the life and death matters she and her daughter face and daily contended with. And she told me whatever any woman is facing at the time is big – to her at the time… and that whatever I was facing was big… for me. And she assured me that it was all okay, that no one was keeping score. I’ve never forgotten that bit of advice. So whatever you’re facing – regardless what others do or do not have to deal with – it’s big, it matters. It matters to you.

So, my friends face troubles and attempt to deflect the attention by saying something like, Well… I know I don’t have it as bad as so-n-so, or I really shouldn’t complain, after all, I do have more than I need or more than someone else, or more than I deserve or whatever other “more than” thing they come up with. We need to stop keeping score… I mean, we even keep score by not keeping score or attempting to not keep score. Those statement: “I really shouldn’t complain, but….” really are tabs in a score book.

What we really need to do is take all this stuff to the LORD and say something like, Lord, this really hurts, is hard, feels bad or whatever… and then ask His direction, protection, provision or whatever for whatever the situation is that we face. We so often discount our trouble and attempt to handle it quietly—but it’s actually not quiet at all… it cries out when we least expect it.

So whatever you’ve got going on… it’s big. And… glory be to God that the ground at the foot of the Cross is level. And spacious… go there and see if that’s not so.

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another sideline note

teacuppamela.png I read this comic strip this morning and while a few of the children here laughed, I didn’t laugh.   we spend years attempting to train up our children, they cry when we leave and rejoice when we return.  They cling to our skirts and hang out at the bathroom door waiting for us to get finished in there so that they can hand us dandelions and give us sloppy kisses and then… one day it sort of just happens… and they’re independent, they have their own life… (at least some of the time).  We’re never ready for it when it happens – but it happens with each child, and we sure feel dumb when it does.  For some of our children the process is greater and hits a bit deeper, and for others it’s very subtle and not all that noticeable most of the time.  But it’s another phase of life…  It’s all part of mothering from the sidelines. 

O, they aren’t leaving and they sure don’t want us to leave them either, but there comes a point where we’re just not as cool to them and all their friends as we used to be.  We sort of take the sideline.  As an older mom, It’s funny how I never realized when my mom went to the sideline.  One of those melancholy thoughts… I sort of join her there now… but in a bittersweet twist: I’m there cheering mine on and she’s still there cheering me on.

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a sad note

The Maxwell’s baby, Susannah Joy, has passed from this life………….. and we pray into the arms of the LORD.
Our deep sympathy to the Maxwell family, especially to Nathan and Melanie… sweet parents… grieving the loss of their newborn – their firstborn child.   Please remember them in your prayers as they walk through the days ahead.  Sweet comfort is that they are trusting in the merciful grace of the LORD.

Humbling

My name is Pride. I am a cheater.

I cheat you of your God-given destiny… because you demand your own way.
I cheat you of contentment… because you “deserve better than this.”
I cheat you of knowledge… because you already know it all.
I cheat you of healing… because you’re too full of me to forgive.
I cheat you of holiness… because you refuse to admit when you’re wrong.
I cheat you of vision… because you’d rather look in the mirror than out a window.
I cheat you of genuine friendship… because nobody’s going to know the real you.
I cheat you of love…because real romance demands sacrifice.
I cheat you of greatness in heaven…
because you refuse to wash another’s feet on earth.
I cheat you of God’s glory… because I convince you to seek your own.
My name is Pride. I am a cheater.
You like me because you think I’m always looking out for you. Untrue.
God has so much for you, I admit.
But don’t worry…
If you stick with me, you’ll never know.

-from Beth Moore’s Praying God’s Word

home’s cool

teacuppamela.pngI needed to write an article for the next issue of Making It Home magazine. And I thought what shall I write? It’s the May/June issue and I wanted to write something appropriate – meaningful for mothers. And then I thought on the retreat I’ve just attended and the thoughts still swirling around in my mind. I thought on some of the questions also that I’ve received lately and was amazed (but never surprised!) at God’s weaving of different messages and themes.

I’m often asked and often contemplate the question: Why home school? I’m asked, “Do you think everyone should homeschool?” I usually hear that translated: “I don’t homeschool, and you probably think I’m __________ (fill in the blank; bad, wrong, etc.) for not homeschooling.” I get that kind of question/statement regarding a myriad of other topics… motherhood, no birth control, homemaking, submission to one’s husband, church, modest clothing and on and on. People tend to feel judged by those who are “different” than they—especially when it comes to these particular topics.

I’m often asked if I think homeschooling provides the best education for children. To which I reply, homeschooling doesn’t really provide ANY education for children—parents do—I know, a little glib there. I do think that parents need to do or undo what the government schooling does or doesn’t do to and for children – but the mere fact that children are at home and out of the government school atmosphere isn’t the only reason we school at home. There are many schools, I’m told, that are excellent for the care, guidance and education of children. I imagine that’s true and, in fact, I’ve met numerous believers who were government school educated and their lives are dedicated to following the LORD. But almost across the board there’s this underlying currant of thought — it’s subtle in some cases, but it’s there. It’s something that believers the world over just gloss over and don’t even really realize it and it is the educating of men and women to be equal in all ways. It’s the conditioning that boys and girls receive year after year and like the analogy of the frog placed in a pot of cool water and over time the water is heated to boiling and the frog is slowly cooked to death, the identities and distinctions of boys and girls are slowly steeped in the pot, and over time, like the frog, the distinctions and identities die.

They go in distinct and they leave blurred. Dead. The boys aren’t trained up to be godly, responsible, obedient, hardworking providers, protectors and strong leaders; and the girls are not trained up to be godly, responsible, obedient, homeworking MOTHERS, protectors of life and home, lovers of husbands and children, nurturers of God’s gifts.

In our home (and I know this is true for *many* homeschooling families) we’re seeking to live, learn, love, serve, obey, create, pray and follow the LORD so that we will not be educated otherwise. This phrase: “educated otherwise” comes from listening to talks by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies. And, O my, I cannot get those thoughts out of my mind… and I don’t long to lose them, either, by the way. Women are/were uniquely created for the most blessed, precious, important, noble and sacred role: motherhood. Women are to be taught to love their husbands, love their children, to be good, chaste, keepers at home. Men are to be taught to be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience (in addition to many other virtues, qualities and characteristics of godly men).

So I say… hmmm… God has designed each for specific and distinct roles and the world seeks to blend, blur and blot them out. Boys could or should be men, but they’re being educated otherwise. Girls could or should be women, but they’re being educated otherwise. I take a moment to ponder and then I am gripped with unquenchable fervor to *be* what God’s designed and called — to teach the children to *be* what God’s designed and called ———and I must go from here: to that calling!
So, why would I send the children to government schools to be educated otherwise?

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