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♥ Don’t be a captive, silly woman

Honourable women. Honourable women with sound doctrine. Honourable women teaching sound, biblical doctrine. Honourable women who have retained honour…

updated 4.20.2019

I’d like to share with you some links to sites I believe to be most encouraging for a keeper at home.  In this day and age, it’s often offensive to women to hear that being a keeper at home is God’s design for women, and many women take offense at the thought that there’s a biblical mandate for keepers at home.  I pray that this page, this site and AChristianHome will not offend but inspire women — my intention is not to discourage but to ENCOURAGE!  We live in perilous times — yes, these matters at this serious.  The decline of the culture is but one aspect of evidence that Christians have hidden the precious treasure and have become so intent on engaging the culture that many have become the culture.  Pay attention to what you’re reading, who you’re listening to, who you’re following!  Teachers *with* Sound Doctrine are becoming scarcer and scarcer with each passing year. God calls us to be a peculiar people, zealous of good works. 
I want to encourage you to stand for the Word, stand for the Truths contained in the Word and to stand alone, if need be, for the sake of the gospel.   Being a keeper at home does not mean you never leave your home, never conduct business outside the home, never minister outside the home, never “work” outside the home — but it does mean that the home is your domain, it means that you are to keep it, guard it, make it flourish, treasure the gifts the Lord has entrusted into your care and to use your home as a center of faith, worship, work, encouragement, health, fruitfulness, industry, ministry and hospitality.   You see?  God has a marvelous design and calling for women.  Seek Him… learn what He has for you. Be careful who you read, listen to, follow. Be very careful to not become a captive, silly woman, ever learning but never able to come to the knowledge of the Truth. -2Timothy 3.5-7 {

booksflrIn addition to my husband’s grandmother, probably the most influential woman of faith for me has been my mother in law who, from the very beginning of my courtship with my husband, encouraged me in the Word and in prayer and in reading “good things” (think Titus2) and hearing good teachings.  She invested greatly in my walk with God — through books and cassette tapes, magazines and annual women’s retreats, she invested in me.  She loved me and blessed when I’m sure I was not evidencing a strong walk of faith.  She taught me a lot about unconditional love (in action!).

An exemplary woman of faith — an honourable woman of virtue — was Elisabeth Elliot.  Through her radio programs, books and publications and an opportunity to hear her at a women’s retreat,

Elisabeth Elliot was greatly inspirational to me as a wife and homemaker – and later as a sometimes-retreat-speaker myself.   It was her inspiration that was part of what prompted me to teach or,  rather, to simply share with women, what the Lord had done for me and to attempt to encourage others what the Lord says in His Word to us women/wives/mothers.  A poem she quoted ( Do the Next Thing ) instructed me greatly as a wife and mother.  To personalize it, I say: “Do The Next Right Thing” as sometimes, as simply doing the next thing wasn’t the very best thing to be doing at the time. I often consider that we might choose “good things” to do– thinking they are the next thing, but actually, good things are often the enemy of best things.
Especially given to depression, I have highly valued Elisabeth Elliot’s wisdom and instruction — and have so often, through motherhood, I’ve brought to mind and have applied what she taught.   And, as a mother-in-law, her words continue to ring in my ears.  Recently, I came across this page… you’ll be blessed by these words too, regardless where you are in the mothering of children.  These are keepers to reflect on daily or tuck away for future days!!


Another of the “most honourable women” I’ve most appreciated through the years (and, believe me, I haven’t listened to her programs daily nor have I been able to all of her website articles or books — there is a lifetime of information and encouragement there for you) is Nancy Leigh DeMoss — Now, recently married, Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth.  She has a very long, steady, faithful track record — I’ve come to search out and value these traits more highly as the years pass having witnessed that many of the once-faithful have waned, the once-honourable have succumbed to the lures and trappings of the world, and once-vibrant ministries have come and gone. I’m blessed and encouraged every time I run across an article, listen to a podcast, see a video presentation, or read a book Nancy’s written.

NOTE:   As women in ministry become like silly women ever learning but never able to come to the knowledge of the truth [and draw others away in their silliness], it’s all the more important to examine the teachings, weigh them properly and carefully — to be as the Bereans, as it were, searching the Scriptures and applying them to whatever’s being taught/spoken/written to see whether what’s being taught is sound doctrine or a subtle blend of vain philosophy and spiritual tickling of the ears.  I sincerely implore you to Please be wise in your reading and listening. 


  • Housewife Theologian” Aimee Byrd, in my estimation, is a solid, well grounded writer/teacher. There may be occasions she has a stand that may be more “mainstream” regarding teaching.  I’m not sure if I see red flags, though. Let me know if you do.  Here is an example of her conclusions to an extremely important (and, yes, occasionally volatile) topic: Complimentarianism.
  • Women “teachers” — Women Teaching Men – How Far Is Too Far?  I think Mary Kassian’s conclusions are carefully researched, doctrinally sound and well written.
  • A Woman That Fears The Lord — Georgene’s encouraging site for Christian women.  You’ll be blessed!
  •  Renewing Housewives  Jennifer offers so much inspiration to be an excellent wife and
    homemaker.  From a conservative, complementarian, home-schooling, keeper-at-home
  •  I Take Joy Sally Clarkson
  • Practical Theology for Women – Wendy provides theologically sound commentaries and
    practical answers to a variety of topics pertinent to Christian women today.

    Pay attention to what you’re reading, who you’re listening to, who you’re following!  Teachers *with* Sound Doctrine are becoming scarcer and scarcer with each passing year.

More will be added soon… time’s limited 🙂

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2 comments to ♥ Don’t be a captive, silly woman

  • Karen, Thank you for writing — I always appreciate reader’s questions/suggestions and corrections regarding what’s posted here.
    Michelle Lesley’s research is an invaluable resource and as you know, I respect her views/research. I tend to be a tad bit more lenient regarding “women teaching men” or “men in the audience” of a woman teaching women. I’m not at all talking about preaching, leading, teaching in church meetings per se, I’m talking about retreats, mission’s conferences, women’s gatherings, etc. In these specific settings, they are, in my estimation, a natural part of the communication within the church body/church family. This, to me, is a toughy. Bcz we have many examples of women being “helpers” etc., etc., in ministry… I tend to have no doubt that they shared their stories or ministry reports in the churches. This to me is probable though not specifically spelled out.

    As for a few of the other things Michelle notes, regarding NLD-W, I guess, sadly, I’ve “overlooked” (and please, forgive me for this) or missed some things that seem “off” perhaps bcz I’ve read her work or listened to her programs for so many years (not so regularly in the last 6 years) and didn’t catch them. I will diligently research some more and note here on this page what I locate. I think that my endorsements come specifically from older writings, articles, books. An example would be LysaTerkeurst. Another would be Beth Moore. Both I do not endorse. I have seen many women depart from Scriptural ministry in recent (10+) years — women who once held strongly to Biblical Truth and Biblical inerrancy — women I used to enjoy reading/listening to and received good biblical counsel from — women who didn’t seem to but clearly now embrace mysticism, new age philosophies, strange fire, health/wealth/prosperity doctrines and the new sort of feminism that’s infiltrating most all Christian ministries to one degree or another. It’s all so subtle. So very subtle in many cases.

    Thank you, again, Karen… I’ll get to this. <3 God bless you & your home. ----pamela

  • Karen Silvester

    Good afternoon Pamela- one of the links on your page leads to Michelle Lesley’s article Popular False Teachers and on that list is Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth. Michelle Lesley does not call her a False Teacher but has her on a list of people she would not recommend. In the article Honourable Women you do recommend her. I feel that this is confusing. Looking forward to hearing from you

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